As I was talking to my mother, she said “People talk a lot about their fear of falling, as if that was the main problem. It isn’t. The problem is when people fall down and not get up. That is the problem. The parents need to let their kids fall and support them on the way up. I have fallen many times. The main ones were when your father and brother died. But I got up. I had a life. I had children to take care. I had a motivation to continue and live. You see?”
I nodded, “Yes mom. Sometimes when I fall, I feel paralyzed as if my life came to a stop. The pain is agonizing. But then I remember Alex, I remember my community, I remember you, and I get up. I have a lot of reasons to keep up living.”
My mother continued, “We often can’t prevent the fall. It catches us by surprise. But we can always choose to get up.”
Our eyes locked in determination – always to get up.
PS: Published in the book “Talking to my Mother.”